All endings are inexorably tied to new beginnings. That’s the nature of the journey. It continues to unfold. It builds on itself. It can’t help itself from doing that. Cherish the moments, all of them. You have seen and felt much in life so far. But still, the best is yet to come. -Melody Beattie
Letting go is perhaps one of the most difficult challenges we face. Our egos easily and all too eagerly attach to things, people, and outcome. Letting go of these attachments can be painful, particularly when we can’t see what’s ahead. Throughout the years, many clients have shared how they have a “back-up person” waiting in the wings just in case their current relationship ends. The fear of the unknown (and being alone), for some, creates feelings that are intolerable. Having “plan B” in place may mitigate some of the fear, but it doesn’t address the real fear: letting go.
I have always found the metaphor of a closed fist and open hand helpful; a closed fist represents our resistance to letting go, while an open hand symbolizes our willingness to embrace the present and future. Moving from a closed fist to an open hand is a process. It requires patience and the willingness to release what no longer serves us. The choice to let go allows us to follow the pathway to our soul.
Life is a series of things to let go of–our friends and loved ones, our children as they grow, our youth, our perceptions of ourselves. In my own life, I have found myself having to let go more these past few years than ever before. In the last year, I have been faced with letting go of my daughter, yet again. The first time was when she graduated from high school and moved away on her 18th birthday, the second time was when I moved from Michigan to California, and then last year, after having moved to California and only living 5 hours away, she relocated back to Michigan. I’ve also faced other losses including the death of my father and letting go of a very beloved pet more recently. Was any of this easy? No. In fact, I’m still working my way through some of it. But, I’m discovering that as long as I keep an open hand (and heart), my experience of letting go is much less stressful. In fact, I remain inspired to let go, knowing that I’m clearing the pathway for my soul to continue its journey and fulfill its destiny.
What do you need to let go of? Perhaps there is a self-limiting or destructive pattern that needs to be released, or maybe you feel compelled to pursue a dream that requires letting go of the work you’re currently performing. The important thing to remember is that no matter how daunting it may feel, you possess an inner strength and courage that is greater than any situation. Courage is about letting go and moving forward, not in the absence of fear, but in the presence of it. When you realize the inner power you possess, you can let go of your attachments. This doesn’t mean that you don’t work your hardest for the highest outcome, but rather, that you do your best and leave the rest to Spirit.
What is it time to release? You have two choices; you can either try to hold onto the past with a closed fist, or you can choose to embrace today with an open hand. As you already know, the former will cause you (and others) unnecessary pain and suffering, while the latter might trigger some fear of the unknown, yet provide rich, new experiences for your heart and soul. Which will you choose?
Affirmations for Letting Go
The past is over; I plan for tomorrow and live for today.
All my experiences are allowing me to become a stronger and wiser person.
As I let go of attachments, I create room for fulfilling and soulful experiences.
I let go easily for I trust that new and exciting opportunities are on their way.
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Hi Laura, This is the first of I hope many emails from you. Letting go below was very enjoyable. I do cherish the moments more today than ever before. I hope to see more emails like one below. I have been blessed with two recent grandkids. Thanks for brighting my day today. Have wonderful afternoon keep the open hand. Best Regards, Gary
It’s nice to hear from you. Thank-you for taking the time to comment on my recent blog. I’m glad what I wrote brought some “brightness” into your day.
Thanks for your response. I was hoping you got my comment. The 8th Wonder of the World was very nice. Your inspiration is wonderful. Take care and God bless.
From my heart to yours,
Dearest Laura, love this new post. Perfect timing. You are such an inspiration and light in my life. Love and hugs, always Maria
Hello Dear Maria,
Thank-you for sharing your love and support. I’m glad my words give you some light and inspiration–we’re all in this together!
Excellent Laura. I love your writings, especially this one on attachments and letting go. I think one of the most troubling attachments is when we are attached to illusion, especially illusion in relationships. So hard to see the reality of the person when that occurs. Anyway, I admire your work and would love to meet you someday. FYI I’m so an author of a number of books life-purpose (www.lifeworkpress.com), primarily for a Catholic market.
All the best for all the good work you are doing to help others! Rick Sarkisian PhD
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Thank-you Rick, for sharing your thoughts about my recent blog. It’s really great to hear from you and I will definitely check out your website at lifeworkpress.com
Bright Blessings to You,
You are a inspiration to me. I am now going through a period of FEAR, I know what I need to do. It is just difficult to let go and not hold tight. I do realize the best way is to let go. Less pain and some peace. You constantly need to remind yourself that you will be ok. That your Higher Power will take care of you. Just another huge bump on the journey. Hopefully this to shall pass and I will be better for it. Then I can continue on my journey. May your Higher Power watch over you. Ellen
I’m so glad you took the time to write and share a bit about your own journey with me. I can very much relate to how the period of fear that you’re going through. Sometimes, it’s hard to have the faith and trust we need to truly let go. Surrendering, though, requires a tiny bit of willingness to believe that maybe, just maybe, something new is trying to be born as release what is familiar. Our Higher Power is always ready to gently lead us to greener pastures. May you find peace in knowing that you’re not alone, all of us are doing the best we can to let go and move forward into the unknown.
Much love to you,